The self imposed NoFap Style Challenge has come to an end. I actually learned some interesting things by abstaining from porn for 90 days. I learned more about the sensations that my body was craving. I learned some interesting lessons about focus and self-love. I also taught myself about intimacy and truly making connections, with myself and others. I don't think I would have learned these lessons if the time period had been shorter; the introspection that the 90 days forced was a key part of these lessons.
I learned a lot about my own sexuality during this challenge. This was the first time that I had been alone with myself during masturbation. I had to work with myself and I create a sexual connection, odd as it sounds. I was completely reliant on porn before this, it had become like an on/off switch for my dick. That being the case, when I used to masturbate I was able to completely externalize all of my concentration. During the last 90 days I had to rewire my sexual connections. Not only masturbation, but sex has become a more intimate act.
At this point, being present and in the moment is part of the turn on. When I masturbate I am now focusing on my body, the sensations that I am feeling, and the fantasies that will bring me to orgasm. By doing this for 90 days I have learned quite a bit about my own sexuality and what I want out of sex. Now when I have sex, rather than externalizing my focus, I am focused on the other person and the act itself. Not only has sex and masturbation become more enjoyable, but by being in the moment my self-love has been increasing.
After solely focusing on myself for 90 days I have felt my own sense of self-love growing. I attribute this growth to focusing on my own body during masturbation rather than a stranger on a screen. I wholeheartedly believe that by focusing on a stranger while you're making love to yourself you will tarnish your self-love. You are telling yourself, on a subconscious level, that this stranger is worth more than you are. By abstaining from porn my self-confidence, my sex drive, and the amount of love I have for myself have all grown. This happened simply by forcing myself to redirect my focus from being external to internal. The whole process of this challenge has required me to reanalyze how I viewed my body and what my body needs out of sex.
This NoFap Style Challenge has helped me a tremendous amount. Not only do I no longer require porn to masturbate, but I am enjoying masturbation and sex more. I have learned a lot about my body by being forced to focus on it. I am feeling more comfortable in my own skin, I have more confidence, and my libido has grown. I recommend that everyone does something like this, where you abstain from porn for a prolonged period of time. I have certainly seen amazing benefits, despite the challenges early on. I know, with absolute certainty, that by challenging myself I have grown and will be able to share my love with others more easily now.